Sunday, October 29, 2006

Teenagers.....The Light at the End of the Tunnel.

I was going to entitle this: The Joy of Teenagers but I thought H. (husband) would have a hernia he was laughing so hard..("Run that by me again...")
All mothers out there will remember the last hellish month of pregnancy when you'd have done anything, gone through anything just to get that baby out.....the last years of adolescence are as unbearable...and, then, suddenly it's all over.
We've arrived at that stage or almost. In the last 9 months Daughter (D.) has decided to finish her schooling, skip University, has opted for vocational training when's she's 20 and, in the meantime is living in our studio with her partner and financing herself with temporary work.
This was such a huge departure from our own visions of her future; student life, a chance to be irresponsible and carefree that it's taken a while to reconcile ourselves to the difference. But, thankfully, we've got there...
It had to be her choice in the end as it's her life though I'm so disappointed that I won't be able to relive my own student days through her; she's a tremendous mimic and has a way of describing people and events that's worthy of a bigger stage.

And secretly, in my heart of hearts, I'm happy that she's so close still and I don't have to do this:
Where are you going?
Who with?
What time will you be back?
That's too late.
Who's driving?
Do they drink?
Are you sure?



b/sistersshoes said...

Motherhood is an interesting journey...We grow them in our wombs, raise them in our hearts and then feel the pain in our guts when they fly on the wings that we make them with our hands.

From one mom to another,

love ~ tender love,
XXX Darlene

Jane Poe (aka Deborah) said...

Dear Angela...yes, these parental transitions are difficult. And, you are so right, it is her choice even if it doesn't fit into our dream or wish for where they will be. However, she is safe and close, and that is a huge gift.

As Darlene said, from one mom to another, much love...Deborah